So... I'm reading this Steve Harvey book (late I know) "Act Like A Lady/Think Like A Man... and it is interesting to say the least. I'm on chapter 6. There are 15 chapters. I will say that it is a relatively easy read. I do have some problems with what I've read thus far. Some things, I'm like "Yeah" it makes sense or I can see that. But so far what I'm gathering from this book, being more than a third of the way in, is that men are morons incapable of providing you with decent conversations and so you really shouldn't look to them for that level of conversation you should just talk to your girlfriends. In addition, they will love you, but only in their own way which is only shown through protection, provision, and them saying it. He's indirectly saying men really aren't romantic and they don't like to cuddle and really share none of the same interests as women save sex. What else? Oh, it seems as if his suggestion is to cater to men; whatever is important to them should pretty much be your focus until they become well established at which point he ultimately guarantees that man will give you his undivided attention. He makes mention that a lot of the dealings of men are encoded in their DNA so it's "just the way it is". I thought an example that he used about wanting to "protect" his wife was a bit over the top. Being the "natural born protector" that he is, he didn't feel comfortable with her going scuba diving because if push came to shove there wouldn't be much that he could do to save her, so after explaining this as being okay because he's (men have) been brought up to protect his woman, she no longer does the thrill seeking things she used to do. I found that quite disturbing. A little controlling. Then, he is direct about mentioning that he is a believer in God but there are very specific instances where he is kind of self promoting as if he's done everything by his own will. That lack of faith turned "protection" didn't help either.
Like I said it's an easy read but there are some points where he is clearly talking in circles, in one instance guaranteeing if you follow his simple self help tips you'll be well on your way to understanding men, then others where he is clear to ensure you that following those same tips won't guarantee you anything.
I'll continue to read, and see if there are any real, useful revelations that come up later. I'll leave this lasting point: if it is indeed true that men have been brought up to provide for women, protect them and not care about the things in between, then we need to do better to make our men better adjusted individuals lest they really do become expendable. If I can provide for myself, protect myself, and be free to be me, and those were the basis of being a man, I've just showed that I only need you for one thing...not really as long as Carmen's is 24 hours. I'm just sayin....
Til Chapter 15 ...DUECES!!
