Baseless Accusations: Season Finale

Long awaited season finale review:

Recap:

Jen decides to stay with Eric. She claims to love him. And you know what, I’ll actually give her a pass on this. When I saw it, I involuntarily rolled my eyes, you know… “*itch please” type of thing. But let’s pretend that she does love him, he doesn’t love her in return. One person can not make a relationship work. Jen doesn’t trust him, he doesn’t appear fully committed, hell, he won’t even play the game. All this to stay married? Is it that serious? Eric pretty much acts as if he could care LESS. It’s not to say that Jen is perfect. There is clearly some resentment and attitude present when she interacts with him. It really seems like a lost cause. Staying together without changing anything is a recipe for

All this talk about happiness, find your dignity and self worth and move around. I just see there being more hell later. Not to mention, there is no spiritual basis here. So if he can’t be faithful to Jen based on the vows he took, though according to her, he was cheating then, and he doesn’t answer to a higher spiritual being that would require him to honor his wife and love her like the Lord loves the church, then what is going to stop him from continuously treating her like shit? I’m just saying… I definitely think Eric is dealing with some other issues. I mean he’s not exactly attractive and he’s an asshole, so without good looks and personality he has to validate himself by sleeping with women who want to be around him because of his “celebrity” (connections). It’s a sad situation really. All around. Let’s hope they don’t bring children into this madness.

 

Suzie continues to be in the midst of the madness/drama. It’s safe to say she’s been the culprit behind all of these surprise meet-ups: Evelyn and Vanessa Davis, the “Groupie” and Jen. She met up with Gloria and the two of them engaged in fake conversation, shared fake apologies, and gave fake hugs. Y’all are not friends. It defeats the point if you smile in Gloria’s face and then talk about her later…she’s going to see the video. DUH! Then Suzie invites Gloria out and hoodwinks Royce. I’m glad Royce set her straight letting her know she’d better not pull that ish again. Unfortunately, she will. So, I think I speak for the masses when I say to Suzie

HOE SIT DOWN!! 

:random rant: Suzie is not the voice of reason, she is NOT checking for any of the females there and she likes to be in mess. Suzie’s not going to keep it real, she’s the “friend” that’s going to steer them in the wrong direction if they actually take her advice. Actually she’s about as much a “friend” as she is a “wife.”

Shaunie confronts Gloria, and you know what? She actually has a valid point. If she felt she and Gloria were close friends and Gloria felt the same, all of this talk about being “ride or die” for her family is a joke. Not to say throw your sister under the bus, but don’t be smiling in Shaunie’s face if your sister is knocking down her husband. I also would like to point out that no one is denying these allegations, so…we can assume that something happened. How hard is it to squash this mess, especially if it’s not true? Come on. She did it. I think they need to move beyond the madness. Gloria is not exactly the person that you want on your team, she’s very fickle.

 

 

 

 

 

Royce & Gloria reconfirm that they don’t like each other through this pre-arranged meeting Messy Suzie sets up. Royce is right in being done with Gloria because her position was one where she was speaking well of Gloria and Gloria was going behind her back talking shit. And not because Royce had done anything to her, but because of what her profession was. It’s amazing to me that Gloria will apologize to Suzie, hug her, and call herself cool with her and when Suzie does NOT like her. Fool. The one chic who was actually checking for Gloria she gets into it with. Then Gloria tries to go hard at Royce like “You’ll never be a wifey.”

Let’s be clear. Gloria is not even married. Her and her baby daddy are just still together. If your kids are at least 15 months, and you were pregnant all 40 weeks, that means y’all have had at LEAST 2 years to get married and you’re still a fiancée' and probably only that because you have his kids. So, you’re throwing jabs at Royce saying she won’t be a wife… well, let’s break down what that really means. That means she won’t be sitting in any of their chairs, weeping because she’s in a loveless marriage or because she’s been cheated on and because females are “coming at her husband.” Seriously? That’s some ignorant shit to say. ONE, she’s Dwight Howard’s baby mama, the reality is…she’s never gon’ be doing THAT bad. Two, Royce knows what it' means to work, to have a dream and follow it, while Gloria is doing the same thing her other counterparts did when they thought their marriage/relationships were good: NOTHING. She’s sitting home, with what I presume to be no education, and if/when it ends, she’ll have nothing to show for herself but wasted years and as many children as she decides to pump out for this dude. She’s an idiot. There. I said it.

Trust in your man… that’s cool, but to assume everyone wants to be in your position, is naive and juvenile. 10 years. Let’s see where Gloria is in ten years. That’s all I’m saying. She’s quick to pop off at the mouth and she needs to learn to shut up and let the situation speak for itself.

  Evelyn weeps again about the love SHE supposedly walked away from by choice. I really want her to check herself into some counseling and handle her issue. I’m not being facetious either. I understand it was 10 years. But it doesn’t take that long for a man to decide he wants to be with you. She gave up her youth (in a sense) to be with him and for what? Just to be back at square one and damaged goods later? It’s not worth it. She definitely needs to take some time out to get over it, get to a place where she can hear his name or have a conversation about him and not burst into tears. Also, let me address some nonsense she said. She went off on Gloria because she knows what it’s like to “have to deal with bitches everyday.” These are her words. Well, you weren’t in a relationship with these females, you were in a relationship with Antoine. These females don’t owe you anything, these females didn’t say they would be good and faithful to you, ANTOINE did. So under no circumstance should she have been taking her issue up with them anyway. Ass backwards.

Ladies…if you’ve been in a relationship with someone over five years and you WANT to be married and it’s still being put off because he’s “not ready,” “money’s not right,” “wants to finish school,” or any variation. Move around. Grow together. If you’re good enough to be with for 5 or 10 years (and you want to be married) you’re good enough to marry. Don’t play the game. You’ll lose every time.

Final point, if your man is cheating…move around. There has to be some consequence for his actions or it will become routine in y’all’s relationship. It’s not worth it.

BTW…a new season of Basketball Wives will return in the fall.

This has been Baseless Accusations, as always, I look forward to your feedback. If you’ve missed an episode check out VH1 online.

♥ Author Tierra ♥

Family Business: Ray J & Brandy – Mom & Dad

I’ll be the first to say that I talked really bad about Ray J on my 1st Family Business Blog. After tonight’s episode I’ll be the first to give him credit.

Ray J singlehandedly looked out for Brandy and treated her like the queen that he sees her as. I think it was a positive look from several different viewpoints.

One: He recognized a problem: her last birthday being a total failure. From her not enjoying herself to him not being present…it was a disaster. So not only was he present this time, he personally spear-headed the effort to make 31 a success.

Two: Royal treatment. Not only did he show Brandy how special she is, he also showed that he can be kind and sweet. His treatment is an example to future men that try to date Brandy of how to treat her. And that’s a good look.

Three: He was completely self-less. We haven’t seen a lot of that from Ray J and I’ll definitely admit it was a great break from what the other episodes have presented.

Ray J + Episode 7 = A Good Look.

And now…what’s not a good look …is Sonja AKA “Mama Norwood.”

From her carelessness when it comes to her marriage with Willie Sr. to her total disregard for Brandy, this lady is showing that relationship management is not one of her strong suits. Yeah, she can get things done, BUT if she can’t even maintain an interest and amicable relationship with two of the three closest people to her… how can she possibly maintain relations with the public? Her disposition towards Brandy and her husband explains why some business professionals opt not to work with her.

Got to do better. So not only does Willie Sr. have to drag her out of the house, all-but kicking and screaming, she INTENTIONALLY doesn’t answer Brandy’s phone call, on her birthday, after NOT going to Miami to celebrate with them.

Yeah, she was in the middle of something else, but it seems like a strange time to start putting into effect some of the advice your husband is giving you.

It really is sad to see such a terrible Mother-Daughter relationship. There’s such a disconnect when it comes to these two. While it can’t always be flowers and sunshine, I’d like Sonja to show Brandy as well as the rest of the world that her daughter is important to her.

We’ll get more into detail about Brandy’s need to find love and her highly emotional tangents at a later date. Drop a line and I hope you’ve enjoyed Family Business.

’Til next time; LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH!

♥ Author Tierra ♥

Baseless Accusations: Basketball Wives Pt. III

Disturbing. That’s the word that best describes the latest episode of Basketball “Wife, Exes & Girlfriends.”

Seriously, as I sat back watching this episode I couldn’t understand for the life of me what was going on with Evelyn.

1. Why was she so flippant and angry with Royce when the previous episode she was “looking out” for her?

2. Why did she feel the need to get super-duper drunk?

3. Why  was her boob hanging out her dress AND why didn’t her young ass date  put it back in for her or tell her it was out? He clearly ain’t checking for you Evelyn. Hell, maybe he was embarrassed. Rightfully so.

4. AND FINALLY… why was she so touchy or open to being touchy with Jen’s husband?

I say again. DISTURBING.

Royce is a standout this week. She’s continuously herself. She did a good thing out of the kindness of her heart in feeding the homeless and inviting the girls out to do the same. Not to mention, her only goal was to show these chics that there are worse situations than not being able to buy Louis Vuitton bags and Fendi glasses.

Royce catches a lot of hell, she’s a regular chic. She doesn’t need to be caught up on who’s watching her or trying to hide her law-given voice. Do YOU Royce. Either way it goes, good or bad, they’re still going to think of you as a piece of ****. Clearly.

Suzie, one, never had a state or government recognizable title so she should stop talking. Yeah talking (I won’t even classify that as giving advice) Just period. Forever. Everything she says is dumb or condescending. Stop talking!

She’s seriously, continuously suggesting that Jen cheat…that’s not going to change anything and she can’t say it worked for her, ‘cause she’s still a washed up EX.

Jen has a nice heart, I think for the most part. I will give her credit: she resists talking bad about Royce even though the other two ladies try to go “in” on her. She wants to give back and do better. Her biggest issue is trying to keep up appearances.

I understand not wanting to fail. No one glorifies or heightens their failures, but damn, girl, let it go. Ya dude is rubbing all up Evelyn’s thighs…Disturbing. He shows up late, doesn’t pay attention to what you’ve got going on…give it up.

They have bigger issues than him cheating. He’s an asshole. He can’t or won’t do better. That’s just who he is.

She’s quick to make allowances, like “hey, he showed up, maybe we have a chance.” Uhm…he showed up LATE. Clearly the things that are important to her aren’t important to him. She’s failing herself every day she continues to stay in this awful situation.

Disturbing.

‘Til next week, this has been Baseless Accusations. Let me know your thoughts. If you’ve missed and episode catch up online at http://www.vh1.com

♥ Author Tierra ♥

What Chili Wants (pt I)

For starters, let’s give credit where credit is due. This show is the first reality “match-making” show where the person is actually genuine. And we must say Kudos to VH1 for this.

Chilli has the right idea and the wrong idea at the same time. Having made bad decisions in regard to love in the past, she has chosen to make adjustments. Chilli understands that love, like life, is one big experiment. If something doesn’t work, you go back, examine it, and make the necessary adjustments.

The issue is that she OVER-adjusted. As she transparently shared in Episode 105 tonight, she’d lost herself and given far more than she cared to in her previous relationship with Dallas Austin and so future relationships have been affected.

It’s as if Chilli said to herself,“Never Again!” She built a superficial list that no one could measure up to because that list was safe. If no one can measure up, then it’s not YOUR fault; men just don’t make the cut. You’re okay, hell, even right to be alone.


I love Chilli. She’s beautiful and open and she’s honestly vulnerable about what we all want. LOVE.

Now, she has the right idea, because it’s right to readjust. It’s a good look to take an honest glance/inventory of your previous relationship and see what you need to change, what was good and what you refuse to let happen the next go round. Sadly, too often, men nor women will take time out to complete this task before jumping into bed or a relationship with another.

People abandon the “rejuvenation/re-evaluation” phase; they fail to take an honest look at their last relationship and continue to repeat ugly, unrewarding and unhealthy patterns and interactions with new people.

Now, Chilli’s wrong because she overcompensated to keep from being hurt , to keep from losing herself, and all she’s actually done is lost out on love. If there’s anything to be learned from Chilli, it’s that we need to find a healthy balance between mind and heart. Love without emotional involvement, is merely an intention, a nice thought. But loving doesn’t mean losing yourself or being dumb. A good heart and a right mind are a terrible thing to waste.

Add something to someone’s life and make sure they do the same to yours.

‘Til next time…

~Live, love, laugh~

♥ Author Tierra ♥

Baseless Accusations: “Basketball Wives”

Let me start out by saying Vh1 has the best reality programming. Hands-down. Some might feel like they make “coons” and “buffoons” out of the people on the show. And to those people I say… that is neither here-nor-there! :) Vh1 does its job…it ENTERTAINS us.

Now if you’re not familiar with the characters I’ll take a moment to apprise you. FYI this is called baseless accusations because…well, just keep reading :)


This is Evelyn (Lorada) she was the fiancee' to some guy for 10 years. (We’re not as much concerned about the men as we are the actual characters) She eventually tired of their relationship and they are “separated.” 

:record scratches: How are you “separated” when you were never married? I guess I can’t hate cause my girl Monica said the same thing about her and Rocko. (Different post)

Notice I didn’t say SHE left him. Because to date, I haven’t heard anything on the show indicating SHE was the one who initiated the separation. She did say it’d gotten to a point where she just couldn’t take it anymore, but she didn’t say she chunked deuces to him.

I like Evelyn, she’s uppity but still down to earth. Meaning, she worries about her reputation but in the grand scheme of things, when it comes down to being authentic, I think she is.

Royce Reed. She’s funny in some respects and in others it’s like, “Come on chick, get it together.” She hasn’t been tainted by the fame of being Dwight Howard’s baby mama. But at 29, I want her to do a little bit better. For example, stay out of the bubble jackets and minimize the p-popping in a handstand. She’s very relatable in the sense that she has a carefree, say-what-you-want attitude. But on the flipside she is too old for some of the crap she does. Just because you look 16 doesn’t mean you should act it.

:sigh: Jennifer Williams. Not only is she the fakest, she’s the one I feel the sorriest for. She’s a walking prop. She’s so concerned with image but she’s the one who has it the absolute worst. Her husband, Eric Williams, some RETIRED basketball player is an ASSHOLE. Their marriage is in shambles, he’s NOT nice to her and she clearly doesn’t want to be there but doesn’t want to give up the “stuff.” That’s the only reason she’s around. He makes no public apology for cheating on her, talks to her like shit, doesn’t want to have kids with her. It’s like…

 RED FLAG!

This is only the beginning. We’ll get back to this.

Gloria Govan. She’s funny. Sometimes to her own detriment. She’s a fiancee'/baby mama. Ok, that’s fine, it “is what it is.” BUTTTT! She’s so cocky about her relationship with Matt Barnes that when it comes out that he’s cheating…and it will, no one is going to feel sorry for her. It’s one thing to have faith in your man. No problem with that. But to assume the rest of the women could “learn something” from you and that they’re “jealous” of y’all’s relationship is a bit out of line. Not to mention, homeboy is SUSPECT. He’s cheating on her. If yal’s relationship was so great and stable, why are you his BM and not his wife? C’mon. Baseless Accusation or future reality? I’m just saying.

Shaunie O’Neal is pimping these chicks. Period. She’s technically not on the show, ever, save random unwanted commentary. She tells them to get together or do certain things and they do it. And I’m sure just to use her name and image is getting her paid. I say again…PIMPING at it’s finest.

Suzie Ketcham is as useless as Shaunie. She’s the ex-girlfriend of Michael Olowokondi. Exactly. She’s about as relevant as he is. But I will give her props for throwing a drink on the “groupie.” That was classic (as was the conversation that followed) Other than that…just another boogie chick who never really had a real position, but whom we’ll call a “wife” anyway.

Stay tuned for more BASELESS ACCUSATIONS. Be sure to leave comments regarding who your favorite “wife” is and anything else of relevance. You can catch previous episodes on http://www.vh1.com/

♥ Author Tierra ♥

Thanks for Listening

"You are NOT listening to me!" he yelled in anger.

"Yes I am babe" she reassured him, shaking her head knowing this was about to begin another 12-round argument between the two.

"Really? So what did I just say" he berated.

"Something about…"she paused, trying to recount his actual words. "And then, you said… well I do remember there was something about dinner." She offered in an uneasy tone. Turning back to the magazine she'd been reading, she flipped the page and admired a light purple cardigan being advertised.

"Thank you for that convincing argument" he remarked, clapping his hands sarcastically. Still angry that she wasn't giving him her full attention he continued, "You know what…I can't do this anymore." For months he'd hoped their conversation wouldn't have to come to this, but he knew this was beyond his breaking point.

The last five words jarring her from her magazine, she repeated "you can't do this anymore? What can't you do?"

"I can't keep coming home to an insensitive woman. You don't listen to a word I say, when you do even give me a hint of your attention, you exaggerate what I've said, and frankly, I'm tired of it. It's clear that you don't respect me or this relationship and I want out" he finished.

"All this over dinner?!" she exclaimed. Starting in on a tangent, defensively she began "Yes, I'm going to cook, I always cook. That's what kills me. You act like you're going to die, because there's still thirty minutes left on the food. Give me a break. I am not your slave, and you have the audacity to talk about respect!" she condemned.

"Wow" he concluded, the rest of his words being lost in thought. Shaking his head he began gathering his things.

"Exactly. 'Wow' is right. I've got some complaints of my own, but you know what, I put them to the side because I know you mean well. Do I listen to everything you say? No. I. Do. Not." She confessed slowly, "but that doesn't mean I don't respect you, that doesn't mean you aren't the apple of my eye. Sometimes you just talk about things that I don't care about. So yes, I'm guilty of looking at you and thinking about what I want to base the chicken in while you're talking. And there have been times when you've been talking about work, that I've zoned out and started thinking about what color fingernail polish I should replace with my current. We've all been guilty of that" she offered, "but when you say something important, I'm all ears".

Jason had long since quit packing things into his suitcase to stare incredulously at his very-soon-to-be-ex. "You know what?" he began, "You're a real asshole. Who says that? Fingernail polish and garlic lime seasoning are more important than my conversations with you?" he asked tossing his hands up in despair. "You're pathetic you know that! You're 36, no kids, never married, still wearing your hair in a childhood pageboy and you don't even have the decency to have a good personality. You're going to end up…alone, again, with a house full of cats, half your age, who climb in your hair and drink from the same glass as you. I was your last hope." He affirmed.

"Oh that is low!" she retaliated. "Pageboy?! This is a traditional bob!" she yelled in offense. "Maybe this breakup is a good thing, I don't know if I want to be with someone who doesn't know how to fix his own meals. Who whines like a three-month old child when dinner isn't ready. I'm not your psychologist, call her up! Get back on the couch, mister! For the record I have a brilliant personality" she screamed at the top of her lungs. "I have supported you, and loved you, and catered to your every need. I miss one conversation about dinner and now I'm the bad person? She asked "I caught the jest of what you were saying and if that's not good enough…screw you".

Giving an exasperated sigh, he headed for the door, turning around he said, "No that's not good enough for me. And for the record, I never said anything about dinner, I said my mother died at a diner this morning, but you're right, when I say something important you're all ears" he said letting the door slam behind him.

Blended Lies

"You act like it's my fault that the number is in your phone Stanley!" she yelled.

"You ain't have no business going through my phone" he reprimanded, snatching his phone out her hand. "You trippin about finding numbers you need to stay your nosey ass out my shit."

"WHAT!?" she yelled incredulously. Ok, this was it. She'd given him the opportunity to at least pretend he wasn't romantically involved with the trifling hussy whose nude photo had shown up on the screen when she'd called, but he wasn't even trying. "Why do I always have to show how crazy I am" she questioned before taking it there. Walking over, she towered over him as he looked up at her patronizing her with his eyes.

"He really thinks I won't do anything to him" she realized. Nodding her head at her own revelation, she reached over, covered his entire, smug face with her fingers and pushed his head aside. "Stay out of your shit?" she repeated. Curling her fingers into a fist she landed a hard one against his right eye. "Or what?! What are you gonna do if I don't?" she countered hitting him again, this time causing his face to swell.

"Bitch!" he yelled, hopping up from his seat, "you not finna sit here and hit me like I'm some got-damn child."

Walking over to him she forcefully slapped the Iphone out of his hand and onto the floor. Shaking his head in amazement at the turn for crazy his girlfriend had just made, he reached down to pick up the phone, almost grasping it before she hastily swooped in and yanked it from the ground. Racing down the stairs, slipping over several, she hurried toward the blender and dunked the phone in. With Stanley quick on her heels, she turned to face him with a mischievous grin on her face.

"I'm sorry" he yelled, never taking his eyes off his prized mechanical possession lying cater-corner in the blending device. "I never did nothing with her, I promise" he "confessed". "You right, I was wrong for taking her number, for talking to her, but baby I promise, I didn't ask for that picture of her" he offered, hoping she wouldn't ask how it came to be her Caller ID. "And I was in the process of breaking it off with her cause I love you, you know, and I was telling her that" he rambled, thinking quickly on his toes.

She waited, finger hovering over the 'crushed' option.

"You know I love you, this is all one big misunderstanding. You said you love me too, so why you doing me like this?!" he questioned, feigning hurt feelings, wiping away imaginary tears.

"Why?" she asked looking at him through angry eyes. "Because you're a no-good piece of shit liar!" she yelled livid. " I did say I loved you" she said shaking her head at her own stupidity, "but then I went to the doctor Stanley. And you know what he told me?" she asked awaiting his reply. "He told me that I was pregnant Stanley, notice I said 'was'. But I'd already known it. For four months I'd known I was pregnant, and I waited, and waited for the perfect time to tell you. But you with your bullshit and your lies, it was something every week. The twins from Vegas, the hoe from the hood, and now this bitch, with her exposed nipple piercings mocking me from your cell phone. I lost my baby stressing over you and you never had the decency to even notice I was pregnant" she scoffed. "Didn't have the decency to come up with a good lie, and now, you care more about a $200 phone than you do the 'love of your life'. I'm doing this to you cause you did it to me" she said pressing down on the button as the phone bounced up and down, shards of plastic flying recklessly in circles.