Basketball “Wives” 2/2-The Farce

 

A farce is basically what the whole episode was. Everybody was being fake. Everyone was putting on a show pretending to be happy. It was too much.

So you have Suzie who keeps saying she wants to do Broadcast Journalism because that’s what she “majored” in in college. My question the whole episode was, “But did you graduate?” It doesn’t matter what your major was if you didn’t follow through. Additionally, you have no experience, your dedication is at like 5%. It just doesn’t look promising. Then for Suzie and Gloria to hook up and pretend to be friends, but their entire relationship consists of talking bad about the other girls, is a FARCE.

Then you have Jennifer and her continued relationship with Eric. He’s still being an asshole, she’s still being indecisive, all for the sake of not getting divorced? Get cha issue.

Shaunie and her “relationship.” Her and dude weren’t even in a 5-foot proximity to one another. That’s a farce.

Tami was just doing way too much. The lesson to be learned from her and Evelyn (smh) is the power of forgiveness. Now, I’m not one to call a woman bitter just because a relationship ended—or because she’s Black—but Tami is definitely that. This whole concept that you can only forgive someone if they apologize…is a farce. Forgiveness is about you. This is a perfect example of how that is the case. Tami has sat back being mad for ten years and Kenny has remarried, changed his life and moved on. He’s still a little bitter/salty about the kids but for the most part his life hasn’t stopped as a result of his failed relationship.

Then Evelyn…not only is she doing too much but she needs to get her issue. She’s going really hard at Suzie because she’s an easy target. Evelyn is a bully and won’t be satisfied until someone knocks her off the rented high-horse she’s prancing around on. She becomes more and more intolerable by the episode. I don’t know how Chad (Ochocinco) keeps up this publicity stunt of a relationship with her without losing his mind.

Royce was being messy this episode which I did NOT appreciate. I don’t know what happened behind the scenes, but if you’re really friends with Suzie then you shouldn’t have set her up. Again, another farce of a relationship.

Overall, this episode was a little disheartening. Granted, money doesn’t make you better, but you should have the means to get your issues together. I’m a little disgusted with everyone. As a viewer and humanitarian—in the most basic sense of the word—I want these ladies to get it together. Do something with ya’selves. They are showing that they literally were trophies: they sat still on someone’s arm instead of pursuing a life for themselves. I guess that’s what happens when you choose to be an inanimate object instead of the person God created you to be. Food for thought.

Til next time. Y’all be easy.

Tierra Allen

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The Return of “Basketball ‘Wives’”

 

So, season 2 of “Basketball Wife, Girlfriends and Exes” premiered this past Sunday on VH1. It was very entertaining. I’ve always said that though. The season started high with drama. You have Evelyn and Suzie getting into it. Evelyn’s just NOW realizing that Suzie is messy. SMH. It’s funny though, Suzie told Royce that Evelyn leaked her own pictures. My thoughts are; she probably did. She’s an attention whore. She’s in the right profession for it though, so…get it how you live.

Jen is still at a stand-still in her relationship. One thing that stood out to me was that she was trying to reach her husband (Eric Williams, retired NBA player) and couldn’t. She called a few times and got no answer, couldn’t leave a message because his inbox was full and had to send him a text. Like, WTF? That was strange. Why do you have to approach him like a groupie? Shouldn’t he be checking on you? That’s too much.

Shaunie is still pimping these chics. That’s fine-living right there. She comes on the show, gets all the ladies in the same room, nods her head—never sharing her own personal experiences—and orchestrates chaos. The entrepreneur in me is impressed. The feminist in me is appalled.

Royce still has the same down-to-earth feel about her. She’s still humble. Her facial expressions are hilarious: she clearly still enjoys seeing these women go through what they go through. I love that she’s not tainted. She’s dating and appears to be really happy. Good for her.

They’ve introduced a [few] new characters to the show, one of them being Tami. She’s down-to-earth in a rough kind of way. It’s crazy because I really don’t think these women realize how fake they are. I think what most people call fake, trifling, etc. they call living. I don’t what would possess Shaunie to tell the other women that this ex-basketball wife (Fa real, she was actually married) had been on food stamps before. This was clearly something told to her in confidence. Then, as soon as the lady gets up from the table, they start talking shit. Now, I’m not gonna lie, she did look cheap as hell when she met up with them: seriously, I think she had a tan fanny pack covering her waist, some jeans from the 80s and a recycled knit jacket on. BUT, how quickly they forget that looking like a million bucks, they’re still broken in spirit, character and emotionally-wrecked. They’re really not that different from each other.

It appears that later on in the show Tami will put hands on Evelyn. I’m sure the crowd—myself included— will go wild.

Most of them still seem to be twiddling their thumbs instead of finding something to do with their time, Jen especially. Evelyn’s store (Dulce) continues to be empty. SMH.

If you haven’t watched it, turn to VH1, I’m sure they’re showing it every hour on the hour or go to www.vh1.com 

‘Til next time! Y’all be easy.

Live. Love. Laugh.

Author Tierra Allen

Chile Please- The Ultimate Catch

A joke. Publicity stunt. It’s definitely not real. The show was rather lack-luster. The top 17 was pretty wack. The only standouts to me were Rubi and Tiphani. I think they have a lot in common and there’s genuine interest.

Additionally, I think a lot of Chad’s character was shown just by his picks. For example, there were 2 girls that he picked that looked to be 50 years old, easy. I’m still unable to decipher why he picked one and the other is big-breasted, so I figured that must have been it. She literally looks like a man.

Also a show of his character, is that he sent a girl home who talks too much but was willing to keep a female that was willing to talk to a fellow peer of his/his homeboy. Really? You’re okay with that?

It’s strange. This show is definitely nothing to get worked up about.

No one ever finds love on VH1: Flava Flav, Ray J, Real, Chance. It just doesn’t happen.

Chad is a pretty good looking dude, nice body, pretty decent personality (on Twitter), money, stature, the things women want. If he can’t find a chic on his own, without the assistance of Viacom, he’s not going to be able to find it with them. Reason being, you take 85 women that were probably picked at random. Then, he deleted half of the bunch based on looks alone. So his top 17 is really just a set of women who he was physically attracted to, who opted to be a part of his show for various reasons.

The reality is, half those chics are gold-diggers. The other half are there for whatever reason; real or fake. The probability of finding “The One” in this made-for-TV program… highly unlikely.

It’s sure to be another series of women chasing after one man, doing way too much, fighting with one another, and making a fool of themselves, only for him to not settle down with any of them when it’s all said and done.

You heard it here first. What are your thoughts?

Til next time, LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH!

♥Author Tierra♥ 

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Baseless Accusations-Reunion Special

Rather underwhelming. I don’t know if it’s because we’ve seen all there is to see or if it was just a boring episode, but that was forty-five minutes of my time I could’ve spent doing something else.

Between Suzie and Sandra “The Groupie,” both of whom are irrelevant, it’s like take a seat. I look at Suzie as an “honorary member of the show,” the groupie continues to try to throw shots at Jen about her husband, but at the end of the day she’s a nobody, she’s a single mother; meaning she ain’t gotta man to call her own EITHER, and she’ll never be Jen. Period. So in essence, what she thinks or has to say doesn’t matter.

As I watched this show, I saw a circle of women with fake smiles plastered to their faces and I couldn’t help but wonder…when are they going to stop trying to live an “image” and start living their lives?

I’m glad Jen, Shaunie, Evelyn and Royce have been able to find a support system in one another, I hope that Gloria is not on the show next season, and I hope when Jen looks at this she sees that Suzie is not her friend.

Shaunie made a point I’ve been reiterating since the start of this show, at the end of the day, they look up and have no title to really be proud of, no title that really identifies THEM. “Wife,” “fiancée,” and “mother” are all important roles, but none of them speak to who these women really are. Find yourselves ladies, before you end up with that same title but “bitter,” “resentful,” “angry” or worse is attached to the front of it.

Til next season, this has been “Baseless Accusations.”

Author Tierra Allen

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Baseless Accusations: Season Finale

Long awaited season finale review:

Recap:

Jen decides to stay with Eric. She claims to love him. And you know what, I’ll actually give her a pass on this. When I saw it, I involuntarily rolled my eyes, you know… “*itch please” type of thing. But let’s pretend that she does love him, he doesn’t love her in return. One person can not make a relationship work. Jen doesn’t trust him, he doesn’t appear fully committed, hell, he won’t even play the game. All this to stay married? Is it that serious? Eric pretty much acts as if he could care LESS. It’s not to say that Jen is perfect. There is clearly some resentment and attitude present when she interacts with him. It really seems like a lost cause. Staying together without changing anything is a recipe for

All this talk about happiness, find your dignity and self worth and move around. I just see there being more hell later. Not to mention, there is no spiritual basis here. So if he can’t be faithful to Jen based on the vows he took, though according to her, he was cheating then, and he doesn’t answer to a higher spiritual being that would require him to honor his wife and love her like the Lord loves the church, then what is going to stop him from continuously treating her like shit? I’m just saying… I definitely think Eric is dealing with some other issues. I mean he’s not exactly attractive and he’s an asshole, so without good looks and personality he has to validate himself by sleeping with women who want to be around him because of his “celebrity” (connections). It’s a sad situation really. All around. Let’s hope they don’t bring children into this madness.

 

Suzie continues to be in the midst of the madness/drama. It’s safe to say she’s been the culprit behind all of these surprise meet-ups: Evelyn and Vanessa Davis, the “Groupie” and Jen. She met up with Gloria and the two of them engaged in fake conversation, shared fake apologies, and gave fake hugs. Y’all are not friends. It defeats the point if you smile in Gloria’s face and then talk about her later…she’s going to see the video. DUH! Then Suzie invites Gloria out and hoodwinks Royce. I’m glad Royce set her straight letting her know she’d better not pull that ish again. Unfortunately, she will. So, I think I speak for the masses when I say to Suzie

HOE SIT DOWN!! 

:random rant: Suzie is not the voice of reason, she is NOT checking for any of the females there and she likes to be in mess. Suzie’s not going to keep it real, she’s the “friend” that’s going to steer them in the wrong direction if they actually take her advice. Actually she’s about as much a “friend” as she is a “wife.”

Shaunie confronts Gloria, and you know what? She actually has a valid point. If she felt she and Gloria were close friends and Gloria felt the same, all of this talk about being “ride or die” for her family is a joke. Not to say throw your sister under the bus, but don’t be smiling in Shaunie’s face if your sister is knocking down her husband. I also would like to point out that no one is denying these allegations, so…we can assume that something happened. How hard is it to squash this mess, especially if it’s not true? Come on. She did it. I think they need to move beyond the madness. Gloria is not exactly the person that you want on your team, she’s very fickle.

 

 

 

 

 

Royce & Gloria reconfirm that they don’t like each other through this pre-arranged meeting Messy Suzie sets up. Royce is right in being done with Gloria because her position was one where she was speaking well of Gloria and Gloria was going behind her back talking shit. And not because Royce had done anything to her, but because of what her profession was. It’s amazing to me that Gloria will apologize to Suzie, hug her, and call herself cool with her and when Suzie does NOT like her. Fool. The one chic who was actually checking for Gloria she gets into it with. Then Gloria tries to go hard at Royce like “You’ll never be a wifey.”

Let’s be clear. Gloria is not even married. Her and her baby daddy are just still together. If your kids are at least 15 months, and you were pregnant all 40 weeks, that means y’all have had at LEAST 2 years to get married and you’re still a fiancée' and probably only that because you have his kids. So, you’re throwing jabs at Royce saying she won’t be a wife… well, let’s break down what that really means. That means she won’t be sitting in any of their chairs, weeping because she’s in a loveless marriage or because she’s been cheated on and because females are “coming at her husband.” Seriously? That’s some ignorant shit to say. ONE, she’s Dwight Howard’s baby mama, the reality is…she’s never gon’ be doing THAT bad. Two, Royce knows what it' means to work, to have a dream and follow it, while Gloria is doing the same thing her other counterparts did when they thought their marriage/relationships were good: NOTHING. She’s sitting home, with what I presume to be no education, and if/when it ends, she’ll have nothing to show for herself but wasted years and as many children as she decides to pump out for this dude. She’s an idiot. There. I said it.

Trust in your man… that’s cool, but to assume everyone wants to be in your position, is naive and juvenile. 10 years. Let’s see where Gloria is in ten years. That’s all I’m saying. She’s quick to pop off at the mouth and she needs to learn to shut up and let the situation speak for itself.

  Evelyn weeps again about the love SHE supposedly walked away from by choice. I really want her to check herself into some counseling and handle her issue. I’m not being facetious either. I understand it was 10 years. But it doesn’t take that long for a man to decide he wants to be with you. She gave up her youth (in a sense) to be with him and for what? Just to be back at square one and damaged goods later? It’s not worth it. She definitely needs to take some time out to get over it, get to a place where she can hear his name or have a conversation about him and not burst into tears. Also, let me address some nonsense she said. She went off on Gloria because she knows what it’s like to “have to deal with bitches everyday.” These are her words. Well, you weren’t in a relationship with these females, you were in a relationship with Antoine. These females don’t owe you anything, these females didn’t say they would be good and faithful to you, ANTOINE did. So under no circumstance should she have been taking her issue up with them anyway. Ass backwards.

Ladies…if you’ve been in a relationship with someone over five years and you WANT to be married and it’s still being put off because he’s “not ready,” “money’s not right,” “wants to finish school,” or any variation. Move around. Grow together. If you’re good enough to be with for 5 or 10 years (and you want to be married) you’re good enough to marry. Don’t play the game. You’ll lose every time.

Final point, if your man is cheating…move around. There has to be some consequence for his actions or it will become routine in y’all’s relationship. It’s not worth it.

BTW…a new season of Basketball Wives will return in the fall.

This has been Baseless Accusations, as always, I look forward to your feedback. If you’ve missed an episode check out VH1 online.

♥ Author Tierra ♥

Family Business: Ray J & Brandy – Mom & Dad

I’ll be the first to say that I talked really bad about Ray J on my 1st Family Business Blog. After tonight’s episode I’ll be the first to give him credit.

Ray J singlehandedly looked out for Brandy and treated her like the queen that he sees her as. I think it was a positive look from several different viewpoints.

One: He recognized a problem: her last birthday being a total failure. From her not enjoying herself to him not being present…it was a disaster. So not only was he present this time, he personally spear-headed the effort to make 31 a success.

Two: Royal treatment. Not only did he show Brandy how special she is, he also showed that he can be kind and sweet. His treatment is an example to future men that try to date Brandy of how to treat her. And that’s a good look.

Three: He was completely self-less. We haven’t seen a lot of that from Ray J and I’ll definitely admit it was a great break from what the other episodes have presented.

Ray J + Episode 7 = A Good Look.

And now…what’s not a good look …is Sonja AKA “Mama Norwood.”

From her carelessness when it comes to her marriage with Willie Sr. to her total disregard for Brandy, this lady is showing that relationship management is not one of her strong suits. Yeah, she can get things done, BUT if she can’t even maintain an interest and amicable relationship with two of the three closest people to her… how can she possibly maintain relations with the public? Her disposition towards Brandy and her husband explains why some business professionals opt not to work with her.

Got to do better. So not only does Willie Sr. have to drag her out of the house, all-but kicking and screaming, she INTENTIONALLY doesn’t answer Brandy’s phone call, on her birthday, after NOT going to Miami to celebrate with them.

Yeah, she was in the middle of something else, but it seems like a strange time to start putting into effect some of the advice your husband is giving you.

It really is sad to see such a terrible Mother-Daughter relationship. There’s such a disconnect when it comes to these two. While it can’t always be flowers and sunshine, I’d like Sonja to show Brandy as well as the rest of the world that her daughter is important to her.

We’ll get more into detail about Brandy’s need to find love and her highly emotional tangents at a later date. Drop a line and I hope you’ve enjoyed Family Business.

’Til next time; LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH!

♥ Author Tierra ♥

What Chili Wants (pt I)

For starters, let’s give credit where credit is due. This show is the first reality “match-making” show where the person is actually genuine. And we must say Kudos to VH1 for this.

Chilli has the right idea and the wrong idea at the same time. Having made bad decisions in regard to love in the past, she has chosen to make adjustments. Chilli understands that love, like life, is one big experiment. If something doesn’t work, you go back, examine it, and make the necessary adjustments.

The issue is that she OVER-adjusted. As she transparently shared in Episode 105 tonight, she’d lost herself and given far more than she cared to in her previous relationship with Dallas Austin and so future relationships have been affected.

It’s as if Chilli said to herself,“Never Again!” She built a superficial list that no one could measure up to because that list was safe. If no one can measure up, then it’s not YOUR fault; men just don’t make the cut. You’re okay, hell, even right to be alone.


I love Chilli. She’s beautiful and open and she’s honestly vulnerable about what we all want. LOVE.

Now, she has the right idea, because it’s right to readjust. It’s a good look to take an honest glance/inventory of your previous relationship and see what you need to change, what was good and what you refuse to let happen the next go round. Sadly, too often, men nor women will take time out to complete this task before jumping into bed or a relationship with another.

People abandon the “rejuvenation/re-evaluation” phase; they fail to take an honest look at their last relationship and continue to repeat ugly, unrewarding and unhealthy patterns and interactions with new people.

Now, Chilli’s wrong because she overcompensated to keep from being hurt , to keep from losing herself, and all she’s actually done is lost out on love. If there’s anything to be learned from Chilli, it’s that we need to find a healthy balance between mind and heart. Love without emotional involvement, is merely an intention, a nice thought. But loving doesn’t mean losing yourself or being dumb. A good heart and a right mind are a terrible thing to waste.

Add something to someone’s life and make sure they do the same to yours.

‘Til next time…

~Live, love, laugh~

♥ Author Tierra ♥

Baseless Accusations: “Basketball Wives”

Let me start out by saying Vh1 has the best reality programming. Hands-down. Some might feel like they make “coons” and “buffoons” out of the people on the show. And to those people I say… that is neither here-nor-there! :) Vh1 does its job…it ENTERTAINS us.

Now if you’re not familiar with the characters I’ll take a moment to apprise you. FYI this is called baseless accusations because…well, just keep reading :)


This is Evelyn (Lorada) she was the fiancee' to some guy for 10 years. (We’re not as much concerned about the men as we are the actual characters) She eventually tired of their relationship and they are “separated.” 

:record scratches: How are you “separated” when you were never married? I guess I can’t hate cause my girl Monica said the same thing about her and Rocko. (Different post)

Notice I didn’t say SHE left him. Because to date, I haven’t heard anything on the show indicating SHE was the one who initiated the separation. She did say it’d gotten to a point where she just couldn’t take it anymore, but she didn’t say she chunked deuces to him.

I like Evelyn, she’s uppity but still down to earth. Meaning, she worries about her reputation but in the grand scheme of things, when it comes down to being authentic, I think she is.

Royce Reed. She’s funny in some respects and in others it’s like, “Come on chick, get it together.” She hasn’t been tainted by the fame of being Dwight Howard’s baby mama. But at 29, I want her to do a little bit better. For example, stay out of the bubble jackets and minimize the p-popping in a handstand. She’s very relatable in the sense that she has a carefree, say-what-you-want attitude. But on the flipside she is too old for some of the crap she does. Just because you look 16 doesn’t mean you should act it.

:sigh: Jennifer Williams. Not only is she the fakest, she’s the one I feel the sorriest for. She’s a walking prop. She’s so concerned with image but she’s the one who has it the absolute worst. Her husband, Eric Williams, some RETIRED basketball player is an ASSHOLE. Their marriage is in shambles, he’s NOT nice to her and she clearly doesn’t want to be there but doesn’t want to give up the “stuff.” That’s the only reason she’s around. He makes no public apology for cheating on her, talks to her like shit, doesn’t want to have kids with her. It’s like…

 RED FLAG!

This is only the beginning. We’ll get back to this.

Gloria Govan. She’s funny. Sometimes to her own detriment. She’s a fiancee'/baby mama. Ok, that’s fine, it “is what it is.” BUTTTT! She’s so cocky about her relationship with Matt Barnes that when it comes out that he’s cheating…and it will, no one is going to feel sorry for her. It’s one thing to have faith in your man. No problem with that. But to assume the rest of the women could “learn something” from you and that they’re “jealous” of y’all’s relationship is a bit out of line. Not to mention, homeboy is SUSPECT. He’s cheating on her. If yal’s relationship was so great and stable, why are you his BM and not his wife? C’mon. Baseless Accusation or future reality? I’m just saying.

Shaunie O’Neal is pimping these chicks. Period. She’s technically not on the show, ever, save random unwanted commentary. She tells them to get together or do certain things and they do it. And I’m sure just to use her name and image is getting her paid. I say again…PIMPING at it’s finest.

Suzie Ketcham is as useless as Shaunie. She’s the ex-girlfriend of Michael Olowokondi. Exactly. She’s about as relevant as he is. But I will give her props for throwing a drink on the “groupie.” That was classic (as was the conversation that followed) Other than that…just another boogie chick who never really had a real position, but whom we’ll call a “wife” anyway.

Stay tuned for more BASELESS ACCUSATIONS. Be sure to leave comments regarding who your favorite “wife” is and anything else of relevance. You can catch previous episodes on http://www.vh1.com/

♥ Author Tierra ♥